Monday, July 19, 2010

Profile of a 1-year-old

21.5 lbs
28 inches tall

Walking since: June 5th
Vocabulary: about 35 words

Favorite food: bananas
Favorite animal: dog
Favorite animal noise: baa baa
Favorite color: blue
Favorite toy: any kind of ball
Favorite book: 100 First Words

Things I love:
  • Walking all by myself
  • Going outside
  • Saying "Hi" to people
  • The library
  • Little Einsteins
  • Being in the BabyBjorn
  • Bathtime



Things I don't love:
  • Diaper changes
  • Mommy driving
  • Staying inside
  • My stroller
  • Wearing clothes
  • Really loud noises


HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY!!!

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

First Flower

My baby picked a flower for me today. It was a sort of pathetic looking clover, and he plucked it right of with most of its stem, looked at me with his big blue eyes and grinned, and held the flower out towards me. "Thank you baby" I said. "I'll keep it forever."

It is currently being pressed beneath a stack of Hubby's books. I think I'll make a bookmark out of it.

Good day.



Friday, July 9, 2010

Stay-At-Home-Mom: Carnival of Nursing in Public

Welcome to the July 2010 Carnival of Nursing in Public

This post was written for inclusion in the NursingFreedom.org. All week, July 5-9, we will be featuring articles and posts about nursing in public ("NIP"). See the bottom of this post for more information.

I would love to be breastfeeding and/or pregnant for pretty much the next 10-15 years of my life. Crazy? Maybe a little. But let me explain. My hubby comes from a family of 6, and his mom is one of 8 kids. His aunts have between 2 and 9 kids (the one with only 2 is the youngest and may have more!) Family gatherings at his grandparents' house are some of the most joyful events I've ever been exposed to, with kids running around, teenaged cousins watching sports together, engaged 20-somethings showing off their rings, middle aged aunts cooking and gushing about their grandkids and bragging about their honors students, and nursing mamas and their grinning babies. Seeing these happy large families has given me the confidence that I could successfully raise 6-8 kids if I'm able to have that many.

So for me, and for other mamas who want or already have large families, the issue of nursing in public seems even more pressing. I guess it's sort of like taking the concept to the logical extreme. Because the nursing phase of my life (hopefully) won't be over anytime soon. It will be a big chunk of my life. In fact, when my almost-year-old baby is a teenager, there's a good chance I'll be nursing a new baby.

Very few people in contemporary American society would argue against the proposition that women in general have the right to be in public places. Yet many of them do argue that nursing moms should just stay home until their babies are old enough/weaned enough that they don't need to nurse in public. I've seen this proposed in the comments on pretty much every news story I've read about a nursing mom being told to stop or leave the public place she was at. I've also heard it from relatives.

Which leads me back to my 10-15 year plan. If I have older kids and teenagers and nurslings at the same time, I can't live in some sort of babies-and-mommies-only-dreamworld. I will have to (and want to) be out in public, driving my kids to stuff and watching them compete and perform.

And you know, babies don't "choose" when they want to nurse. They get hungry and want to eat, or get frightened and want to nurse for comfort. Period. There isn't a thought process like there is for adults, or an understanding of time that allows babies to think "well, we're almost done here, so I'll just wait 15 minutes to nurse." At some point (although I'm not sure when) a nursling may be old enough to be asked to wait and to understand what that means enough to be willing to do it. But not for a long while. Anyway, if a nursing mama and her nursling are out in public for hours at a time, there's a good chance the little one will want to nurse at some point.

My question for people who say nursing mamas should stay home is this: if my current baby turns into a baseball player, and has a tournament, do I not have as much right as any other parent to go watch him play? And what if I do have a nursing baby-say 4 months old, old enough to be out and about, but young enough to be nursing exclusively and frequently? To argue that I should stay at home instead of being present at my older children's activities is an infringement of my rights as a parent, and my human right to go out in public.

Guess what? I'm not hiding in my house for the next 15 years so I can nurse my babies. I'm going to nurse my babies in front of their older siblings. And any of their friends who happen to be around. I'll try to use discretion, but I honestly don't think it damages kids psychologically to see mothers breastfeeding (which seems to be the implication of many people who argue that they don't want their kids to "see that"). I think it's probably good for them, if anything.

If you can make it work financially, I think being a stay-at-home mom is best for kids, which I believe is well-supported by social science data and anecdotal evidence. But to argue that moms actually have to literally stay in their homes? Absurd.

Art by Erika Hastings at http://mudspice.wordpress.com/

Welcome to the Carnival of Nursing in Public

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This post is just one of many being featured as part of the Carnival of Nursing in Public. Please visit our other writers each day of the Carnival. Click on the links below to see each day’s posts - new articles will be posted on the following days:
July 5 - Making Breastfeeding the Norm: Creating a Culture of Breastfeeding in a Hyper-Sexualized World
July 6 – Supporting Breastfeeding Mothers: the New, the Experienced, and the Mothers of More Than One Nursing Child
July 7 – Creating a Supportive Network: Your Stories and Celebrations of N.I.P.
July 8 – Breastfeeding: International and Religious Perspectives
July 9 – Your Legal Right to Nurse in Public, and How to Respond to Anyone Who Questions It


Thursday, July 8, 2010

Alternative ABC's Review

We were lucky enough to have the opportunity to review Alternative ABC's from AMMO Books, and here's what we thought.



What it is:
An alphabet board book featuring cool words and art from "alternative" lifestyles, like street and skate style, green living, and even yoga! All of the art in the book is from the 13th floor design firm, who’ve done work for everyone from Quiksilver and Oakley to Mattel and Disney.

Publication info:
Published by AMMO (American Modern) Books, a publisher specializing in provocative, one-of-a-kind books, especially on visual arts and pop culture.

First Impressions:
I was immediately impressed by the vivid colors and smooth artwork in the book. Baby seemed equally interested in the eye-catching pictures.

General Impressions:
The artwork in this book is awesome. It’s surprisingly sophisticated while still child-like and fun. There was never a page that I wondered why they chose the artwork they ended up with to match that particular word. And I love that each letter gets a full two-page spread, so there’s plenty of room to have great art and a nice big letter to help the kiddos learn them (it's easy to get so distracted admiring this book as a piece of artwork that you forget that the actual point it to teach kids letter-or maybe it's both?)

My biggest concern is that the unusual words might be confusing for babies. If you are still learning the words "shoe" and "car", throwing "k is for kicks" and "l is for lowrider" into the mix might not help matters. However, for a pre-schooler who already has basic words down, the hipster vocab may tickle their funny bone.

I think this book would be an especially fun shower present for a mama-to-be who isn’t the pastel-colored-baby-animals type, or of course for anyone who participates in, watches or talks about activities featured in the book but ignored by most pre-school literature, like dirt bike racing or yoga!

Pros:

  • Unique art
  • Bold, colorful style
  • Includes words from many popular lifestyles typically ignored by pre-school literature

Cons:

  • Unusual words may be confusing to babies

The bottom line:
These books are cool-looking and very unique. I would especially recommend them for kids who are bored with traditional alphabet books, and as shower gifts for alternative parents.

Buy it:
Alternative ABC's is available directly from AMMO for $14.95 or from most major book retailers.

*This review is my honest opinion of the product and exclusively mine. I received a free book to review, but did not receive any monetary compensation. Every baby is unique and your family may have a slightly different experience than the one I just described.